Increasing Sexual Pleasure: The Orgasm Gap



Statistically speaking which sex has more sexual pleasure?


9 Reasons Why

  1. Genital Exploration


    • Boys begin genital play at 6 -7 months; Girls 10 - 11 months
    • Boys have complete vocabulary for genitals by age 11; Girls by 16.5


  2. Arousal


    • While 100% of men knew in physiological tests that they were aroused. Almost 50% of women did not know.
    • Boys report first arousal at age 10 – 12; girls 2 - 3 years later
    • Boys report arousal several times a day; girls once a week
    • 77% of boys have an average of 17 wet dreams per year, 8% of girls have 3 - 4 nocturnal orgasms a year.


  3. Masturbation


    • By age 15, 50 % of boys have masturbated versus 33% of girls.
    • By age 18 - 24, 29% of males masturbate once a week or more, versus 9% of females.
    • 93% of college men masturbate versus 48% of college women.
    • Adult men continue to masturbate more than adult women.


  4. Learning


    • Daughters more likely to learn about from their parents sex in terms of moral behavior through guilt and shame.
    • Girls more likely to be punished for genital exploration and sexual behavior since parents fear pregnancy.
    • Clitoris is often not mentioned as much as penis.


  5. First sexual experience


    • 79% of boys have an orgasm with intercourse during their first time which provides positive reinforcement to repeat the experience versus 7% of girls.


  6. Orgasm


    • 7% of men ages 18 – 29 do not achieve orgasm versus 26% of women who do not.
    • 75% of men achieve orgasm with partner sex versus 29% of women.


  7. Intercourse


    • 21% of women age 18 – 29 report that intercourse is painful, which may be caused by lack of lubrication.
    • Women also experience fear and anxiety about pregnancy, STI’s and other health issues (PID, ectopic pregnancy, sterilization which are more severe for women because their anatomy makes it more difficult to notice early symptoms) which detract from pleasure.
    • Incest, rape and other forms of sexual abuse are more likely to occur to women.


  8. Peer Group


    • Males tend to gain status in their peer group for sexual activity.
    • Girls may receive a mixed response from their peer group; usually taught caution.


  9. Desire & Interest


    • In college, men report more frequent sexual desire and sexual fantasies than women.
    • By ages 18 – 29, 14% of men report low interest in sex versus 32% of women.




How to Close the Gap



WOMEN:



Masturbate!


Partner Sex is enhanced with self knowledge through masturbation.



With a PARTNER, use:



Protection:


To protect against STI’s and pregnancy
Lowers fear and anxiety

Water Based Lubrication:


To avoid irritation and painful intercourse

Stimulation:


Use the PST formula

Place:
  • The Orgasmic Crescent (clitoris, G-spot, outer 1/3 of vagina, whatever partner wants)
  • Environment (private location, clean sheets, set mood)

Style:
  • Continuous and steady, whether manually, orally or genitally
  • Gentle

Time:
  • Until she/he is aroused
  • We can’t imagine missing a man’s readiness for orgasm (think sky scraper). We need to recognize when a women is aroused (think hot buttered croissant that puffs up when done)! (Due to genital engorgement & muscle tension).



If this is a hetero couple, timing should be "Ladies first"

  1. To ensure that she has an orgasm
  2. Chances are increased for multiple orgasms
  3. Because she will enjoy vaginal penetration more IF it occurs
  4. Because she can often continue after orgasm, whereas the same is not always the case for men


NOTICE: "If vaginal penetration occurs"


In a recent survey of 1000 college women, more participated in oral sex than p-v sex! (96 to 92%)

What are some advantages of genital stimulation without vaginal penetration?
  1. Less chance of STI (still risky)
  2. Zero chance of pregnancy